Self Improvement

Why failures are important in life?

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
-Thomas Edison.

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Well failure does hurt, doesn’t it?
When we fail, we feel as if our whole life has shattered. It hurts so much that we start questioning each and every aspect of our life. We get so demoralized that we give up at the same point. We feel ashamed of ourselves and think we are good for nothing.
Isn’t it right?

But we have so many examples in our society where people are very highly successful. And whenever they are questioned, how they achieved success, they start their story from the point of their failures. Why so?

That is because failure is a part of life. It is as important as is breathing. Is there is a single person who has never seen failure in life?
NO!
Do you know Walt Disney was told by his former editor that he lacked imagination and doesn’t have any good ideas. Can you believe it? A person who created all those cartoon shows was told that he lacked imagination!
J.K Rowling was broke, divorced, depressed and a single mother while she was writing the book “Harry Potter”. Her manuscript was rejected multiple times by many publishers and see where she is today. She is one of the richest writer in the world.
Do you know Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first job as a TV anchor and now she is a billionaire and has her own TV channel.

Take any field in life. Whether it is an exam, a job interview, a business that you started, your finances, relationships, any particular discovery and list go on and on. Everyone faced failure at some point in their life. Some people seem to fail in multiple fields as well.

What I feel is, failure makes us a much better and stronger person. Even when I failed in many fields of my life, every time I felt as if my life is done. It’s like everything seems darker and there is nowhere to go and nothing left to do. But on a longer run, I feel grateful that I failed. Because failure made me the person I am today. It gave me the strength to withstand anything that life throws in my path. It gave me the time to re-evaluate my flaws and seek out my interests.

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Many times we pursue something in life because of pressure, or by emotional force or maybe at times we don’t even know what we want from life. Like, maybe you are pursuing a career or a field of study because your family wanted you to, or maybe you think it is a stable field to get settled in life or maybe you didn’t even know any better what other things you can do in life. So you continued with the thing and ended up failing.
And then you started asking, “Why me?”
“What did I do wrong?”
“Why everyone else got good marks but I couldn’t?”
“Why they got the promotion but I couldn’t?”
“Why did my relationship failed?”
“Why am I even doing this if all I get is disappointment?”

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Believe me, everyone feels the same, but once you cross this particular barrier everything starts falling in perspective. Ask yourself, what happened back at the time? Are you really interested in that particular field or person? If not then maybe it’s time to start exploring what is best for you. You just need to boost up morally and power through it.
And if you are already following your passion and seem to fail at it even after giving your best efforts, then you need to re-evaluate your way of working. Like, start with the process or routine you follow and try to find out, at what point it went wrong. Seek for help who can guide you to rectify your mistakes. But giving up isn’t going to help you go where you want to reach.

It is very important to own our failures and accept the fact that we need to get better. Take full responsibility of your actions and be proud of yourself that at least your tried rather than sitting around doing nothing. No one is perfect! You might see people who are successful, bouncing on the path of fame and eating on a silver platter. But go and see their journey to where they are today, they have suffered a lot to achieve the life they are living today. They went through multiple failures to learn what they are best at doing at present date.

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  • Failure makes you more resilient in life. Once you recover from the internal turmoil you go through, you become much stronger person. You get the strength to face anything.
  • You gain a lot of experience in the field. You learn what works and what doesn’t. You gain knowledge as well on a much deeper level.
  • When you start to evaluate your process and re-map a better way of approach to it, you grow within you. You see everything from a fresh perspective.
  • Failure teaches you the value of success. Maybe before you didn’t take it much seriously because you were overconfident. But once you fail at it, you understand your own desperation to achieve it.
  • You realize that nothing is permanent. Failure or success, both are temporary in life.
  • Failure makes you fearless. Well once you fail, your fear is already gone. You already know how it feels and suddenly you go for it without any concern of failing again.
  • Failure keeps your ego in check. Since you have already faced it, you learn to appreciate other people’s struggle in life as well. You don’t diminish other people at their low point.
  • Your mindset changes towards your life. You learn the real meaning of life.

All of these benefits only apply when you let go of the past but take the lessons from it and move forward. All the people out there who are feeling bad about themselves and are feeling depressed, please believe me your life has really started now. Be hopeful and believe in yourself because working hard and putting your best efforts never goes in vain.

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Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.
-Napoleon Hill.

Hopefully you will start appreciating your life and start seeing the positive side of failure as well. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Have a great day ahead.

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Pratha Nayak

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Ways to keep toxic people at bay!

Pay no attention to toxic words. What people say is often a reflection of themselves, not you.
– Christian Baloga

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How many times have you felt suffocated by your surroundings? Does it makes you feel like bursting into flames? Or do you feel like drowning yourself? Well may be you need to understand that you might be living in a toxic environment. Often we are in company of bunch of self-absorbed people who always belittle you for every move you make.

As human beings, we tend to live in a group of people as so called “society”, we often cross path with some particular kind of people who are very difficult to tolerate. And doesn’t matter how much we try, we cannot avoid them. Honestly it’s not worth the energy to even try. So we make up our mind to just adjust with the situation. We socialize with this people day in and day out without a choice. And when we do that somehow they get the power to mess with our brain and feelings. And we let them.

But can you really save yourself from this torment? Of course you can! We have a tendency to please people around us and that’s what gets us in this problem in first place.
“Will I look bad if I try to fight?”
“Will it be rude to stand up for myself at this situation?”
“People will talk about me if I say this out loud?”
“Will I lose my job if I object?”
“What if I end up alone if I avoid these people?”
Sounds familiar right!

I go through this situations as well. And when we keep our feelings and anger bottled up for long time, we become depressed and frustrated. At times we end up hurting people who are actually good and important to us. People who actually care for us. How is that any good? But may be we can change that. May be if we know how to deal with toxic people, we can stay happy and live with a healthy mind set. I am going to list down some ways to keep these kind of people at bay.

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Recognize the toxic nature- First we need to recognize who are these people and what kind of nature they have. Do they make you uncomfortable with there statements? They are negative about anything and everything you do. They will always discourage you for any action you take for your own betterment. When you share your creative ideas, they might make fun of you and joke around in front of others. Don’t worry, it’s not about you. It is about them never coming up with anything good by themselves. And you cannot change them by any means. You can’t save them from their own hell.

Set limits and boundaries- Set boundaries about socializing with them. I understand it is not always possible to avoid these people all the time but try reducing it to minimum. Meet them or talk to them when it is really necessary.

Be on the positive side- You need to believe in yourself first. Be so confident about yourself that no one can break you with snarky comments. If you have goals to achieve, then stop listening to people who underestimate your ideas. Don’t show them your weakness, or they will some how find a way to creep inside your head again. Self preservation should be your main motto. Remember it is their own self incompetence that makes them behave that way.

Break it off- If it is intolerable just break it off. It is definitely not worth it to keep these people in your life, if all they do is break you from inside. You may lose some more friends along with them but at least you will learn to live with your dignity intact.

Learn to stand up for yourself- At times you have to fight for yourself. Because when you stay quite, you give them the power to control you and your brain. You start behaving the way they want. If you are in a situation where you feel insulted and humiliated, just say the things that you believe and walk away.

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Try making healthy relationships- Try making new friends or try hanging out with people who really appreciate your presence. What’s the point of hanging out with people who talk about you in a bad way when you are not around. People who are true to you and actually like you, won’t talk bad about you or make fun of you behind your back. So hang out with people who actually care about you and help you grow in life. Who can have your back when you try to conquer the world.

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambition.
-Mark Twain

I hope you found this helpful. Please remember you can get out of such situation gracefully without hurting yourself. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Pratha Nayak

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Habits of Successful People

Success isn’t over night. It’s when everyday you get a little better than before. It adds up.
– Dwayne Johnson

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Hello Everyone!

Today I am writing about habits of highly successful people. From past few months I have been trying to implement few of them into my lifestyle and I really feel amazing change in my health and mindset. Some how I feel it changes the way you think as well. It is told by researchers that to implement any particular habit, it takes 21 days of repetition. If you stick to a habit for 21 days straight, your brain starts to get into the pattern. So I am going to list those habits down for you and I also encourage you to at least try implementing few of them into your lifestyle.

Self-Discipline and Consistency– Well discipline is big on successful people’s plate. This is one of the main reason for who they are today. Do you think an athlete will achieve success if he/she doesn’t have a planned routine for practice? If he/she is not consistent to practice everyday, can they win any game at all? That’s why it is very important to plan your days and stick to it every day if you really want to be successful.

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They start their day early- Waking up early is always told as a good habit by our elders. But we hardly ever bother to consider it. But guess what, most of the successful people make sure to wake up early and start their day as soon as possible. I know its hard, at least for me it is really hard. But if we think about it, when we have a motive, we do get up on time. Like when we have to catch an early bus or flight. When we have planned a trip for a vacation, we are actually happy to get up early but why don’t we do that every day. That is because we lack a motive. If you give yourself a motive of why you need to wake up early, it might become easier every morning. Plus you get a lot of time for yourself and to get things done. Just think about the days when you are late and you take a shower in a hurry, you get dressed in a hurry and you even skip you breakfast. And in that process you go through lot of mishaps. you really don’t like those days, do you?

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They make reading a priority- Successful people make sure they make some time throughout the day to read a book or articles or anything of their interest. Reading helps you to gain knowledge and also makes you confident and raises your self-esteem. It may be just for 15 mins every day but I suggest you make some time to read.

Take time for yourself- Everyday you should definitely make time for yourself when you can think about yourself. It’s called “self-reflection”. You think about “what you are doing in life?”. “Are you going in the right direction of your goal?”.
Think how you can make your life better. I suggest you do this in a peaceful time but not before going to sleep. It might make you stressful and you will end up losing sleep. It is better to have this alone time after waking up.

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Stay Healthy- Successful people make their health a priority. They get up early and they also sleep on time to get the necessary hours of sleep. Well they do have to burn the midnight oil once in while but they make sure to get back into their routine. They exercise, may be not daily but they make time for specific days in a week. Some people say exercising helps them to release stress and keep focus throughout the day.

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Set goals and get going- Well once you set a goal, you need to make an action plan. Successful people don’t laze around thinking, “Hey I want to achieve that one day”. Well that day never shows up. What they do is they make a plan of what needs to be done to achieve their goal and they actually start implementing the plan.

Don’t waste time- When you are passionate enough about your goal, you don’t waste time. There will be always something to do. Successful people don’t waste their time watching movies on a couch by eating pop corn. They don’t go to party every weekend at some club. They do it once they achieve their goals to celebrate. And whatever time they get, they spend it with their family or people who are important to them.

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Stay focused and be honest- As I talked about being consistent in beginning, well it is really important. You need to stay focused and don’t give up when you fall after crossing a bump. If you are being honest to yourself, then you will never lose your focus. Just ask yourself, What benefit are you going to get if you keep lying to yourself.

Today is your opportunity to build the tomorrow you want.
-Ken Poirot

So guys I hope you will try to implement some of the above mentioned habits. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Ways to stop worrying about what others think about you!

Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
– Albert Einstein

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Hello everyone
In our society people often spend half of their time thinking what others are thinking about them. Even I do the same. But are you really being fair to yourself? We suppress our wishes and dreams just for the sake of people who actually doesn’t matter much. I mean is someone else going to live your life for you. We care too much about what society will think. We don’t give our own happiness much priority and go against what is actually right for us. I feel it is really the norm of our so called “society” which pressurize us to do what they feel is correct. They try to control our life and steal the happiness and our right to live a fulfilling life. I mean we really live once. Right!!!

We plan so many things for our future and make course of actions, and these people they suddenly jump into an opportunity to criticize us for it and say that it is a wrong thing to do. And eventually we end up doing what others want us do, which makes us miserable and unhappy. It takes real courage to stand up to this people and go through your plan. And once you succeed, the same people will be standing by your side saying that, “We are really happy for you and we are proud of your success.”.

Have it ever occurred to you that may be these people also did the same thing in their life by being pressurized by others? And they want you to do the same as well, because they don’t know any other way.

At times even your own family members will be standing against your wishes. The same family members who love you and want you to be happy, be safe and well-settled. But until and unless you are happy, can they be happy around you? I don’t think so. It is really like a process which people have created through rules and regulations which you have to follow and stay in the pothole where there is no escape.

But to really be happy in life and really achieve your goals, you have to break some rules. And for breaking those rules there will be some consequences which you actually have to go through for a certain span of time. Once you have crossed that barrier, the world will be your oyster. I know it is easy to say but difficult to implement. But have anyone achieved anything without a struggle? Or will you feel accomplished without going through the struggle?

NO!!

Today I want to share few ways with you all which might help you in surviving those situations and really go ahead with your choices. People will talk. Today it is you, tomorrow it will be someone else. But it is you who have to live your life.

Focus what is important for you.
If you focus really on what is important to you, then you can ignore all those chatter easily. Because you will be busy taking the actions towards achieving what you want in life.

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Love and accept yourself.
People will point out your flaws all the time. Keep in mind that those are the flaws in their eyes because it is an inconvenience for them. They will say lot of bad things about you, behind your back because they can’t really handle you. So it is their problem. You need to love yourself the way you are. Own yourself.

It’s your life.
Well if you break your leg, will some else go through the pain while your leg is healing? No right? Then if something wrong happens in your life, will someone else struggle for you. It is your life! You have to live it. No one is going to live your life for you. It is you who have to take full responsibility of your life. If you make mistake, it is you who have to fix it. If you are successful, it is you who is going to enjoy it. Others can be there for you in your happiness and sadness, but they can’t really live it. So think about what you are going to do.

People don’t care that much.
We spend lot of our time, literally wasting our time being anxious over what everyone will say. “What they will think.” Well flashing news!! People don’t have that much time. Everyone is busy trying to survive their own life. No one has that much time to think about what you are doing. And if there are such people, then think like this that “they really don’t have anything better to do with their lives.”

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Keep perspective.
Other people opinion is often based on their own life principles and experiences. What they think is good may not be good for you. What is working for them may not work for you. Every person has their own personality and thought process. You have to discover what is best for you and work it out
.

Don’t go for perfection.
Perfection is actually over rated. At times flaws gives you the best experience. If you keep trying to be perfect for others, then you will surely fall way down on your own peace of mind.

You can’t please everyone.
If there are ten people around you, can you make everyone happy? Each person will have their own choices, is it your job to fulfill everyone’s demands? It is nearly impossible to please each and everyone. In one way or other, you will make some one sad. But that is okay. You don’t need to be a people pleaser.

You know what is best for you.
When you visualize your dreams, you know how much happy it will make you to achieve those in reality. And you know it will be the best thing that you can do for yourself. So don’t hesitate. Live your dreams and do what is best for you.

Honestly what other people think in their own time is none of your business.
Really I don’t need to say anything here. Will you be offended if someone blames you for thinking something in your head in your own time? Of-course you will be. You will immediately say that, “It’s none of your business”. Then why do we make it our business by what others are thinking in their head in their own space.

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Life is too short.
We never know how much time we really have to live on this earth. And it is really not worth it to waste this short life by being anxious, worried and sad.

Spend life with the people who make you happy, not the people who you have to impress.

I hope you can find those points helpful in some way and ease yourself. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Have a great day ahead.

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Pratha Nayak

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Affirmations- How does it really works?

If you really think small, your world will be small.
If you think big, your world will be big.
-Paulo Choelho

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Hello everyone.
In life we face lot of emotions on daily basis. Sometimes good and at times bad. We go through lot of ups and downs, due to which our emotions are always on a roller-coaster ride. Specially with current pandemic situation, we all are feeling a bit gloomy. We all are emotionally down because somehow our life is not going the way we want or the way we have planned it to go. In such situation it is very difficult to stay positive and feel confident about yourself. In such times how to keep those self sabotaging thoughts and stress away from us?

What are affirmations?
Affirmations are positive statements that we tell our self repeatedly to challenge our sub-conscious mind to stay in a positive mindset despite of the situation. Its a way to keep the negative thoughts at bay.

“I am happy.”
“I am confident.”
“I am good at what I do.”
“I am worthy.”
“I am enough.”
“I am healthy.”

These are a few simple examples of affirmations. It can vary on with situations and person of-course. Saying such statements to yourself every day can boost your confidence as well as can make your mind work in extraordinary ways. Its kind of meditating when you say those affirmations to yourself. You can do this early morning or at night before going to sleep. Or anytime that works for you. But do this in a clam state of mind.

Some people do this when they are meditating, saying in mind again and again. But you can say it to yourself out load or by writing it down in a journal everyday. Motive is to say it as many times till it takes to believe it by heart. I usually write it down in my journal everyday in the morning. I list down all the things I am grateful about and then I write all the affirmations I need and say it in my mind.

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Honestly I feel it is life changing. After doing it every day you will experience a change in your mood and in your state of mind as well. Those positive affirmations makes you believe in your self and eventually you can see the change in yourself. With each day you will be more confident in achieving your goals. Suddenly you will realize that the things that used to make you nervous or stressed will seem much easier. It is our subconscious mind that starts believing that we can do it and directs our actions in the right direction.

I have been doing this from a long time and I can say it with guarantee that it really does works. Try observing the areas you feel weak or the areas of your life that you want to change. And keeping those areas in focus, and writing down positive reinforcing statements on a piece of paper. Then read those statements to yourself everyday as many times as you can. And then see the change yourself.

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If you look at what you have in life,
you shall always have more.
– Oprah Winfrey

I hope this will help you make your life easier.
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Ways to stop procrastination..

You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.
– Abraham Lincoln

Procrastination is like a credit card: It’s a lot of fun until you get the bills.
– Christopher Parker

Hello there everyone.

So today I am going to talk about something I was also doing a while ago. And I really needed some push to avoid it. Procrastinating is one of the issue a lot of people face on day to day basis.

Have you been trying to avoid a certain work or task that is actually on a target to be done soon? Have you set some goals for yourself which you always think you are going to achieve “someday”? That yoga class which you always plan to start next “Monday”. Sounds familiar right!!!

Well, it’s really not a good trait to have in the long run. Eventually, it becomes a habit and it makes you lazy. After some time you feel like you are nowhere in life. And people around you don’t take you seriously either.

I am going to list down a few ways which helped me and maybe you can relate yourself with those and try to change a few things in your life too.

1. Change your mindset – Its one of the most important key to change or remove this particular habit out of your daily routine. First, it is very important to be determined to do whatever you wish for. Say positive affirmations to yourself every day to become confident that you can do this. Every morning when you wake up, say it to yourself,” I can achieve anything I want”.

2. Discipline – Having a disciplined lifestyle improves your productivity to the highest levels. Keeping your day in order helps you to do the tasks on time and achieve the best results that you expect from yourself. Try to gain the will power to follow the routine that you set. If you set your alarm at 5 am then get out of bed at the same time without hitting the snooze button. If you have put a particular task in your list to be done today, then do it today, unless you have dependencies on others to do the work which is reasonable.

3. Start simple – Generally, when we set goals for us, we tend to go a bit over the board. Even though we sometimes don’t know how to do things or how to start. And eventually, we get frustrated and give up. Do some research on the task and how to start with it. Be well prepare knowledge-wise about it before you start. Take baby steps initially and once you get the understanding, start exploring till you actually do it.

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4. Start making To-Do Lists – Making a list of the tasks that need to be done is the easiest way to keep a track of your work. First, make a list of all the goals that you want to achieve and then make sub-lists for each goal with the steps that need to be done. And every time you go through each step, you can cross it out of the list. And to motivate yourself you can set some rewards for yourself with each small achievements.

5. Assign a particular time for the tasks on your lists– As we discussed it is better to have a disciplined life, you can set some time limit for each task. And try to stay within this assigned time to get the best result. It might happen that sometimes you might not be able to complete it within that time set, but there is no reason to panic. We are after all humans, not some machines which can work on codes. So if you ever feel like you are getting behind of your time schedule, just adjust it within your routine. There must be some other task which you can finish in lesser time but you might have given more time limit to that task just to be on the safe side. So modify those limits and you are good to go.

It always seems impossible until it’s done.
– Nelson Mandela

6. Stop trying to be a perfectionist – Often people try to be perfect and try to control every aspect of their life which makes them exhausted. Believe me, I am one of those people. But if we see out of the picture, it is just not possible. Some times we try to do things in our way and get carried away from the real goal. If you are assigning any tasks to others, then have faith in them and guide them to do the task in their way. If you will keep controlling everything, you will definitely end up being a failure on a bigger picture. Which is really devastating. Try to be realistic and give your best at your work.

7. Make failure a positive thing – People often fear failure, I mean it’s a natural thing actually but have you ever thought about. Every time we fail at something we learn our own slackness. We learn our limits. And it is always said that if you want to succeed you have to push your limits. Just because you might fail, doesn’t mean you should never try. Yes, you might fail but you might succeed at it too. Isn’t it worth the risk? At-least you will learn something new in life and you will try again.

8. Lack of knowledge – Has it happened to you ever that you want to start doing something but never did because you have no idea at all how to do it. It is a common thing when we feel we don’t know something we tend to give up easily. we make up our mind that we will fail without even trying. This is where you need to take that step where you show your determination and eagerness to learn something new. Dedicate all your time to explore the whole field and gain knowledge until you feel confident to start the task in real-time. Anyways there is no harm in learning something new right and you are already interested in it. Then find the source of help you can take and get started with it.

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9. Remove distraction – If you are already determined to start with your work then maybe there will a lot of distractions in ways which will divide your attention. It is very important to stay focused to achieve a particular goal. So try to figure out the unnecessary things which are consuming your time without giving you any benefits and get rid of it from your routine. But that doesn’t mean you will start avoiding your time for family and friends.

10. Visualize the result – Best way to motivate yourself and stop procrastinating on a particular task is to visualize that the task is already done. Can you imagine that you have already finished it? How does that make you feel about it? Does it feel peaceful? Do you want to go through that feeling of accomplishment? Well then get started, dear. Because this time ain’t gonna come back again.

In certain ways, we all feel like we need to move forward in life but we don’t really do anything about it. I hope the above-mentioned points will help you to stop procrastinating in your daily life. And you get to that point of life where you feel like “Yes, I finally did it!”


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Self Improvement

How to be alone and not feel lonely

I know its been long that I have written but today I wanna write about something most of the people struggle now a days.LONELINESS

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Most people stay away from their families and friends now a days because of their job or studies or some other reason. And after long tiring days they end up being alone the remaining hours of the day in some room cooped-up in four walls. Eventually they end up sad and depressed.

I agree its difficult to go through such times. We feel like talking to someone or go out with some one and relax. But somehow we don’t get to do it.
There was a time I went through such time and it was really difficult. I became very moody and cranky but with time I learned how to enjoy my solitude.

If you can’t enjoy your own company then how can you expect someone else to enjoy your company.

There are many ways to get out of this painful feeling.

Avoid flaking out on plans.
Has it ever happened that someone might have invited you for some outing or some other plans and you have ended-up giving some non-sense reason to get out of the situation?
Well this is something you shouldn’t do. Because eventually people will stop inviting you to accompany them thinking you are uninterested. Sometimes its better to enjoy the moment and go out and have fun.

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Start writing a journal.
I started journal-ling a long time back and I can say that it really helped me in a very positive way. Writing down the way your day went and the way you feel about it helps having a different perspective towards life. It helps getting rid of the negative emotions as well.

Think about all the perks.
When you are around people, you usually do something everyone commonly enjoy and have a good time. But at times we have our own wishes and choices which others might not like to do. So when you are alone you can do whatever you want. Like watch your favorite movie or favorite series or read a book or play video games. You can even cook your favorite dish and eat it while watching a movie. And you don’t have to think whether others will like it or not.

Use your time productively.
Is there any work pending which you have been postponing since a very long time. Or any course you wanted to, but never got the time to do it. Do it now!! This is the best way to use your time alone properly and it will distract your mind from the lonely feeling too. It will also boost your emotions about yourself in to happy direction.

Try knowing yourself better.
Having lot of time in your hands, you can always try to discover your talents or your likes and dislikes. Does doing some particular activity makes you anxious or nervous but you always wanted to do it. Like playing any particular sport or dancing or singing. Try taking a leap and go for it dear!! Its better to explore it and get to know whether you are good at it or not rather than always having a regret of never trying it throughout your life.

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Try to stay away from social media.
When you feeling sad and lonely, its better to stay away from social media. Now a days in social media people often post their happy moments, where they are enjoying their life. Which is not a bad thing of course but it might make you feel even more lonely and depressed
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Identifying your loneliness triggers.
Try to find the timings and situations that makes you feel lonely. Its not necessary to feel lonely when you are alone. At times people feel lonely even when they are surrounded by people and friends. May be because they don’t feel included or they don’t like the company that much. Whatever is the reason try to find it. If coming to an empty home after long tiring day of office makes you feel lonely or eating alone makes you lonely, try identifying that reason and try to find a solution it. Like try finding a colleague with whom you can have dinner once in a while after office hour. Or if a friend is staying near by, check if they want to do something for an hour or two.

Try to live in the moment.
Its better to start enjoying the moment rather than thinking what you will do once you reach home. If you keep dreading the upcoming lonely time rather than enjoying the present time, then whats the point right?

Learn to differentiate between loneliness and isolation.
Feeling lonely at times being alone and your acquaintance being busy with their life is something different. Whereas if you are trying to isolate yourself from others, then may be its time to ask yourself, “Why are you doing this to yourself?”. There may be many reasons to it. May be you don’t like being in your current social circle or may be you are going through a rough time in your life. If you don’t like your current social circle, then try to make new friends. And if you are having a rough time because of work life or personal life then please talk to someone who you feel you can confide in, like a family member or a very old close friend.

Try exploring your interests.
It is always good to explore what keeps you interested. Try finding a new hobby. Anything that fascinates you and makes you curious to learn more about it.
May be take a painting class or dancing or sculpture making class. Keep trying till you find something which you can do regularly to pass your time. On plus side, you get to learn something new again.

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Adopt a pet.
People who are animal friendly often adopt a pet. A pet always give you company and also gives you emotional support. You can play with them when you are around. It is also said that people who have pets tend to stay happy most of the time.

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Start a exercise routine.
Having a regular workout routine not only keeps you healthy and fit, but it also keeps your mood elevated. You might not feel like doing it initially when you are already sad and feeling lonely but after a few days you will definitely notice a change in your mood. You will feel more active and alive.

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Try going on a trip.
Have you been planing on going on a solo trip since a long time but never got the time or guts!!!
Take that trip now. Find an affordable place you want to go, pack your bags and just go.
Even if you don’t like going alone, now a days lots of trip organizers are available online. They arrange trips for group of people who want to go on trips but with security and affordable plans. Its a great way to make new friends as you will be meeting lots of new people there.

Last but not the least, try enjoying your own company. It will really help you grow within yourself. I hope all the above points might be of some help to people out there who are feeling lonely right now.

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Thank You!
Have a great day ahead.

Sayonara!

Pratha Nayak

Self Improvement

How to read more books?

I do believe something very magical can happen when you read a book-
J.K Rowling

 

 

Hello, once again guys! I do believe that something magical actually happens when you read a book, you go to an entirely different world and I always want to read more and more.

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I know there are a lot of book lovers out there just like me. After a busy day, it’s very difficult to find time for reading.  Below are few points which I implemented for myself and I know it will definitely help you to read more books on the daily basis.

 

  • Carry a book with you all the time- I carry a book with me all the time and whenever I am traveling in a cab or waiting for someone somewhere I simply prefer to read at those times instead of sitting idle.
  • Keep another book ready before finishing the current book you are reading- I always like to keep my next to read book ready with me. I buy the book beforehand so that once the current book is over I can start with the new as soon as possible.
  • Join book forums and websites- There are lots of websites where people share their views and opinions about the books they have read. And, where you can do the same, get to know about books which might take your interest to another level.
  • Listen to audio books – I know few people are very busy throughout the day and don’t get time at all to read. For them, I can suggest listening to audio books while doing your other work.
  • Prioritize reading rather watching television- We often watch television and play games and then we complain that we don’t get time to read anymore. I am not saying to never watch television at all or not go through the social network or play games, of course, we need some relaxation. But once in a while, we need to prioritize about what we want to do. For a change try reading for relaxation and you will love it. 
  • Make a list of books you want to read and stick it somewhere you see every day- I make a list of the books I want to read in my smartphone so that I will get motivated to read more whenever I see the list.
  • Fix a number of pages to read every day- Start with few pages in a day and gradually increase the number of pages, this way you can make a habit of reading for long.
  • Make realistic reading goals- Give yourself a target for reading a number of books in a particular time period like in a week or months. But don’t make goals which are impossible to finish because we have other works in day to day life as well.
  • Read multiple books at a time- I have tried reading multiple books at once and in a way, I felt more connected to the book and the content. It kept me refreshed towards the content of the book and I didn’t feel bored. 
  • Before starting a book, make sure you read the review of the book online so that you will have an idea whether the book will hold your interest or not.

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So, guys, I hope all those points will help you to read more often. Please follow my page to get the future updates of my posts and please post your comments and suggestions below to help me improve my posts.

Thank You!
Have a great day ahead.

Sayonara!

Pratha Nayak

Self Improvement

Self Care

Give me six hours to chop down a tree and i will spend the first four sharpening the axe – Abraham Lincoln

Hello Guys!!!

                     Today I want to discuss self-care and loving yourself. With the busy schedule of our day to day life, we often forget to give our mind and body rest. Even the machine needs maintenance once in a while and we are still humans. Most of the successful people are that productive because from every time to time they take time off work to give their brain some rest.

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There are a lot of ways to relax and I am going to list down a few ways below:

  • Take a day off from work and spend quality time with family and friends. This will not only give you some break from stress but also your family and friends will be happy to enjoy with you.
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  • If you are a music lover then simply close eyes for an hour and listen to your choice of music.
  • Few people like to journal, even if it is not your thing try it once. Sometimes we just need to clear our mind and that can be done if we write it down.
  • You can hit a gym or take a walk or do some yoga. Exercise is quite important to do be healthy and fit. It also reduces stress.
  • Take a long shower with essential oils and Epsom salt, its really refreshing and Epsom salt takes all the body ache away.
  • If you feel too much tired, just go to sleep. Sometimes all your body need is a good sleep.
  • Give yourself some positive boost by saying affirmations like, “Tomorrow is going to be a good day” or “Its all going to get better and better”. These small positive affirmations make a big difference in life.
  • Go trekking, or a long walk, spend some time with nature’s beauty. images
  • Once in a while, it is okay to say “No”. If you are already drained for the day and someone asks you to do any work then it is ok to say NO.
  • Eat a small piece of dark chocolate daily, it is a real stress buster.
  • Watch some funny videos on YouTube. Laughing always takes all our stress away.
  • Give a spa day to yourself at home at least once a month.

So guys try out this tips and share with me which one works for you. Also please follow my page and share your comments below to help me out come with new ideas.

Have a great day ahead!

Sayonara!

Pratha Nayak

Self Improvement

Vision Board

Your brain will work tirelessly to achieve the statements you give your subconscious mind. And when those statements are the affirmations and images of your goals, you are destined to achieve them.
— Jack Canfield

 

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                        Vision Board is a pictorial representation of our dreams and goals. 

           Visualization is one of the most helpful tricks to achieve what we want, and with the vision board, we try to remind yourself on daily basis to focus on our goals and grow within it. Obviously to achieve anything one needs to be focused and consistent and vision board helps us doing exactly the same. The first time I came across this was when I got to know about Laws of Attraction. In the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne it is said that “The law of attraction is forming your entire life experience and it is doing that through your thoughts. When you are visualizing, you are emitting a powerful frequency out into the Universe.”

                             All we need to do is visualize what we want with a positive mindset and we are definitely going to get it. Eventually, we will start noticing changes in yourself. Looking at the board every day will give us the confidence boost and suddenly we will start taking more responsibility towards our dreams. We will take those actions and decisions which previously we thought is not possible at all. We will start noticing opportunities which were already there in front of our eyes we never noticed it.

How to make a vision board?

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Everyone has there own style of a vision board, many people take a big cardboard and keep sticking pictures on it whereas few people put pictures on their refrigerator and few people make a journal. The main thing is it should visible to you every day.

Vision board should not only have pictures of what we want, it should also represent how we feel about it as well. Try finding pictures or quotes which clearly represents your ideal wish or desire. Make sure it doesn’t become a clutter, try to be very clear on your goals. If you find a picture of yourself which represents a very happy moment of your life then stick that picture in the center of the board. It will make you feel that happiness every day. You can also create a board of achievements, like when anytime any of your wishes come true of the Vision board remove it and stick it to the accomplished board. This will increase your faith and confidence in yourself.

I hope this article was helpful for you and please share me your comments and suggestions. If you make your vision board then share the images with me as well. Please follow my page for further updates.

Have a great day ahead.

Sayonara!

Pratha Nayak

 

Self Improvement

Productive Habits

“THE WAY TO GET STARTED IS TO QUIT TALKING AND BEGIN DOING.”
— WALT DISNEY

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Welcome to TWI!

Nowadays we all have a busy life, and we all want to finish all work faster and also want to get better results…

First and most important point is to form those habits which will make us more productive in the day to day life.

  • Focus on one task at a time– We often try to finish multiple tasks at the same time and end-up ruining everything. By focusing on one task at a time we give our best performance.
  • Take breaks and give time to yourself– We get so tired by continuously working and obsessing over finishing everything that we forget to give rest to our body and mind. By taking a break once in a while we rejuvenate our ability to do better.

“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.”- Ovid

  • Make list- This is the best practice to make our day productive. By making a list we get to prioritize our work and keep a track of our whole day.
  • Finish the most important task first to get the best result- We all have a peak time for the whole day. For some people, it’s the early morning and for some its midnight and also for some people it is the daytime. We should keep the most important work of the day at that time. In that peak time, our mind works faster and better than any other time of the day.
  • Start your day by focusing on yourself- I guess there are a lot of people who have a habit of checking emails and social media updates as soon as they open their eyes. Once we wake up in the morning, our body and mind are at ease. Its the best time to give ourselves. We should do something for our well being in this particular time. Just have a cup of tea without a mobile or newspaper. Or do yoga or exercise. Spend that time with your family. Your whole day will go well by doing so. 
  • Embrace your failure- One thing I have learned with my life experiences is that failure makes us stronger to handle the hard times of life. Getting failure is not a bad thing, it just puts a pause button on our racing life. It gives us time to take a good look at every aspect of life and take proper decisions. So instead of feeling bad, start feeling grateful to have that time in your life.
  • Stop procrastination- Some people procrastinate to plan their work and some people procrastinate to delay it. Be the first kind of person. By delaying work no one has achieved good results until today, it only increases the pressure on us.
  • Note down all the “Oh Yes!” moments instantly– Does it ever happen to you, that you are working out or walking somewhere or even shopping and suddenly new idea pop-ups to your mind regarding work or hobby? Yes? Suddenly we say “Oh yes! Then note it down and implement it as soon as possible. Often we forget those ideas and move on with life which becomes a regret later.
  • Believe that you are different than others- Confidence is key to success, doesn’t matter whether we are capable to do a task or not, it is important to believe that we can do it. We can always learn new things and do any task, that’s what makes us different than others and it is important to believe the same.
  • Don’t compare yourself with others- Comparing ourselves with others will only demoralize us. Each person has a unique set of qualities and talents in the different field, which makes everyone different from each other. So its very obvious everyone has different way and pace to work and perform.
  • Power of “why” keeps you moving ahead- Its very important to understand Why you are doing what you are doing. Usually, many of us know what we are doing. Many of us also know how to do it as well, but very few people know why they are doing. Those are the few people who reach their goal sooner and also in the way to reach there they inspire others a lot. The Golden circle by Simon Sinek suggests that start with Why, discuss the How, and end with What.Image result for power of why

 

So guys its time to start making changes in our day to day life.

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Have a great week!

Sayonara!

Pratha Nayak

 

Self Improvement

How to make time for everything you want to do- Time Management!

 

“Time management is a misnomer, the challenge is to manage ourselves.” 
                                                                                                                        – Stephen Covey

Hello to all…

There was a time I used to think, “I have so much to do in so little time”. I didn’t know where to start and how to finish all my work and this continued for years.

Whereas now I finish all my chores and also get time to spend with myself or my loved ones.

Believe me, it’s quite simple. It is the small efforts that make life simple and easier.

What we need to do is keep our thoughts organized and act accordingly. I do prefer to make a list and check all the points once it is done. But with time it automatically became a nature or habit per say.

Plan Ahead

First thing in the morning:  When I wake up in the morning while having tea I try remembering all the things needs to be done throughout the day. If anything very important pop ups in my mind, I save it in my smartphone checklist as a reminder. Or I take a notepad and list everything done and stick it on the refrigerator. By doing so I make sure my day is moving as planned and nothing is missing out. This is the first step to organize and plan your whole day.
You can also plan the night before going to sleep: Planning the next day before also helps you sleep stress-free.

Once we get a list of task needs to be done, we need to prioritize. Yes, this step is very important. There are people who complain, “I stay so busy the whole day, I am always working. Its either at the office or when I come home, I feel like I am always working and it drains me out. I am too exhausted to spend time with anyone else.”

Remember saying so ever? I did.

So prioritizing is very important. Continue reading “How to make time for everything you want to do- Time Management!”