Month: October 2020

The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are.
– Jim Morrison

It is normal human nature to feel loved, liked and wanted by the people around us. We want to fit in among the people we think are cool or popular. We want to be even noticed and recognized. In other words, we don’t want to be ghosted out of society.

And to do so we start making changes in ourselves. Like changing our appearance, way of dressing, talking, eating. Some people even start doing things which are completely opposite of their moral values and principles. In a way, we start pretending to be a person which we really aren’t. But is that a good way of living our life?

We say we don’t like those people who are faking it all the time but aren’t we doing the same every single day. We suppress our natural behavior to please other people. It is okay to explore new ways of lifestyle but continuing it even though if we are not comfortable just for the sake of hanging out with people who actually don’t like the real you is really not worth it.

You will eventually lose your true identity. That is why it is very important to own your own personality. How other people perceive you, is really not your job to worry about. If you are confident about yourself to own your strength and weakness as well, eventually you will be around people who will actually like you for who you really are.

People might point out all your imperfections, which is okay. We should take criticism positively but at times people just point out flaws which is actually an inconvenience for them. In that case, you don’t need to change yourself at all. At times what looks like a flaw to others is the greatest asset of our personality.

People with all kind of traits get a different kind of criticism from our society. An introverted person gets to hear that they don’t talk much to others and they don’t socialize much. Whereas an extroverted person gets to hear that they talk too much and become too much to handle by some people. A person who is very confident within their skin get to hear that they don’t have socializing manners or have no boundaries. So doesn’t matter who you are or how you are, there will be some people who will find you difficult. But all you need to do is ignore those comments and just admit it to yourself, that those people are not meant to be in your life with any deeper emotion.

• Forgive your past deeds.
  Whatever guilt or regret is holding you back, just let it go. We are human after all, we learn lessons by making mistakes in life. You need to forgive yourself for all your past actions and move on in life with a valuable lesson.

• Stop comparing yourself with others.
  Just because you find someone cool by their any particular action doesn’t mean it will make you look cool as well. As we are all different kind of people with different kind of traits, there are already a lot of things about you which makes you cool and remarkable. So don’t compare yourself with other people. You are best at other things which many people can’t even think of having or doing.

• Follow your intuition.
  We often have an inner voice which tells us what is right and what is wrong for us. If we follow that voice then we have already won the battle halfway into the road.
• Accepts your fears.
  It takes a lot of courage to admit to ourselves that we have insecurities and we are actually scared of a lot of things and circumstances in life. Just cause you have fears doesn’t make you any less. And accepting your fears will help you to get rid of them as well.

• Love yourself the way you are.
  You can’t expect people to love you for who you are if you don’t love yourself. You need to value yourself more than anyone else once in a while. It will help you with keeping your self-respect and dignity intact. In other words, it will make you a much stronger person.

• Try to understand your own thoughts.
  On a daily basis, we have numerous negative thoughts and since we keep reeling those thoughts in our mind from time to time, it becomes our reality. Because our brain starts believing those negative thoughts and directs us to take actions accordingly. Try to keep those thoughts at bay and try having a positive attitude.

• Be confident about what you want in life.
  Most of the people don’t even know what they want in their life. So they start listening to other people version of what they should want in their life, which again, as a result, makes them unhappy. Ask yourself what you want to be, how you want your life to be? Explore your option and start making the necessary changes for the same.

• Take responsibility for your own life.
  Rather than relying on someone else and blaming them later for the consequences that you go through, it is better to take full responsibility for your own life. In this way, you will eventually become the best version of yourself.

Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength.
Mastering yourself is true power.
– Lao Tzu

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Pratha Nayak

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.
-Thomas Edison.

Well failure does hurt, doesn’t it?
When we fail, we feel as if our whole life has shattered. It hurts so much that we start questioning each and every aspect of our life. We get so demoralized that we give up at the same point. We feel ashamed of ourselves and think we are good for nothing.
Isn’t it right?

But we have so many examples in our society where people are very highly successful. And whenever they are questioned, how they achieved success, they start their story from the point of their failures. Why so?

That is because failure is a part of life. It is as important as is breathing. Is there is a single person who has never seen failure in life?
NO!
Do you know Walt Disney was told by his former editor that he lacked imagination and doesn’t have any good ideas. Can you believe it? A person who created all those cartoon shows was told that he lacked imagination!
J.K Rowling was broke, divorced, depressed and a single mother while she was writing the book “Harry Potter”. Her manuscript was rejected multiple times by many publishers and see where she is today. She is one of the richest writer in the world.
Do you know Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first job as a TV anchor and now she is a billionaire and has her own TV channel.

Take any field in life. Whether it is an exam, a job interview, a business that you started, your finances, relationships, any particular discovery and list go on and on. Everyone faced failure at some point in their life. Some people seem to fail in multiple fields as well.

What I feel is, failure makes us a much better and stronger person. Even when I failed in many fields of my life, every time I felt as if my life is done. It’s like everything seems darker and there is nowhere to go and nothing left to do. But on a longer run, I feel grateful that I failed. Because failure made me the person I am today. It gave me the strength to withstand anything that life throws in my path. It gave me the time to re-evaluate my flaws and seek out my interests.

Many times we pursue something in life because of pressure, or by emotional force or maybe at times we don’t even know what we want from life. Like, maybe you are pursuing a career or a field of study because your family wanted you to, or maybe you think it is a stable field to get settled in life or maybe you didn’t even know any better what other things you can do in life. So you continued with the thing and ended up failing.
And then you started asking, “Why me?”
“What did I do wrong?”
“Why everyone else got good marks but I couldn’t?”
“Why they got the promotion but I couldn’t?”
“Why did my relationship failed?”
“Why am I even doing this if all I get is disappointment?”

Believe me, everyone feels the same, but once you cross this particular barrier everything starts falling in perspective. Ask yourself, what happened back at the time? Are you really interested in that particular field or person? If not then maybe it’s time to start exploring what is best for you. You just need to boost up morally and power through it.
And if you are already following your passion and seem to fail at it even after giving your best efforts, then you need to re-evaluate your way of working. Like, start with the process or routine you follow and try to find out, at what point it went wrong. Seek for help who can guide you to rectify your mistakes. But giving up isn’t going to help you go where you want to reach.

It is very important to own our failures and accept the fact that we need to get better. Take full responsibility of your actions and be proud of yourself that at least your tried rather than sitting around doing nothing. No one is perfect! You might see people who are successful, bouncing on the path of fame and eating on a silver platter. But go and see their journey to where they are today, they have suffered a lot to achieve the life they are living today. They went through multiple failures to learn what they are best at doing at present date.

• Failure makes you more resilient in life. Once you recover from the internal turmoil you go through, you become much stronger person. You get the strength to face anything.
• You gain a lot of experience in the field. You learn what works and what doesn’t. You gain knowledge as well on a much deeper level.
• When you start to evaluate your process and re-map a better way of approach to it, you grow within you. You see everything from a fresh perspective.
• Failure teaches you the value of success. Maybe before you didn’t take it much seriously because you were overconfident. But once you fail at it, you understand your own desperation to achieve it.
• You realize that nothing is permanent. Failure or success, both are temporary in life.
• Failure makes you fearless. Well once you fail, your fear is already gone. You already know how it feels and suddenly you go for it without any concern of failing again.
• Failure keeps your ego in check. Since you have already faced it, you learn to appreciate other people’s struggle in life as well. You don’t diminish other people at their low point.
• Your mindset changes towards your life. You learn the real meaning of life.

All of these benefits only apply when you let go of the past but take the lessons from it and move forward. All the people out there who are feeling bad about themselves and are feeling depressed, please believe me your life has really started now. Be hopeful and believe in yourself because working hard and putting your best efforts never goes in vain.

Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.
-Napoleon Hill.

Hopefully you will start appreciating your life and start seeing the positive side of failure as well. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Pratha Nayak

Pay no attention to toxic words. What people say is often a reflection of themselves, not you.
– Christian Baloga

How many times have you felt suffocated by your surroundings? Does it makes you feel like bursting into flames? Or do you feel like drowning yourself? Well may be you need to understand that you might be living in a toxic environment. Often we are in company of bunch of self-absorbed people who always belittle you for every move you make.

As human beings, we tend to live in a group of people as so called “society”, we often cross path with some particular kind of people who are very difficult to tolerate. And doesn’t matter how much we try, we cannot avoid them. Honestly it’s not worth the energy to even try. So we make up our mind to just adjust with the situation. We socialize with this people day in and day out without a choice. And when we do that somehow they get the power to mess with our brain and feelings. And we let them.

But can you really save yourself from this torment? Of course you can! We have a tendency to please people around us and that’s what gets us in this problem in first place.
“Will I look bad if I try to fight?”
“Will it be rude to stand up for myself at this situation?”
“People will talk about me if I say this out loud?”
“Will I lose my job if I object?”
“What if I end up alone if I avoid these people?”
Sounds familiar right!

I go through this situations as well. And when we keep our feelings and anger bottled up for long time, we become depressed and frustrated. At times we end up hurting people who are actually good and important to us. People who actually care for us. How is that any good? But may be we can change that. May be if we know how to deal with toxic people, we can stay happy and live with a healthy mind set. I am going to list down some ways to keep these kind of people at bay.

Recognize the toxic nature- First we need to recognize who are these people and what kind of nature they have. Do they make you uncomfortable with there statements? They are negative about anything and everything you do. They will always discourage you for any action you take for your own betterment. When you share your creative ideas, they might make fun of you and joke around in front of others. Don’t worry, it’s not about you. It is about them never coming up with anything good by themselves. And you cannot change them by any means. You can’t save them from their own hell.

Set limits and boundaries- Set boundaries about socializing with them. I understand it is not always possible to avoid these people all the time but try reducing it to minimum. Meet them or talk to them when it is really necessary.

Be on the positive side- You need to believe in yourself first. Be so confident about yourself that no one can break you with snarky comments. If you have goals to achieve, then stop listening to people who underestimate your ideas. Don’t show them your weakness, or they will some how find a way to creep inside your head again. Self preservation should be your main motto. Remember it is their own self incompetence that makes them behave that way.

Break it off- If it is intolerable just break it off. It is definitely not worth it to keep these people in your life, if all they do is break you from inside. You may lose some more friends along with them but at least you will learn to live with your dignity intact.

Learn to stand up for yourself- At times you have to fight for yourself. Because when you stay quite, you give them the power to control you and your brain. You start behaving the way they want. If you are in a situation where you feel insulted and humiliated, just say the things that you believe and walk away.

Try making healthy relationships- Try making new friends or try hanging out with people who really appreciate your presence. What’s the point of hanging out with people who talk about you in a bad way when you are not around. People who are true to you and actually like you, won’t talk bad about you or make fun of you behind your back. So hang out with people who actually care about you and help you grow in life. Who can have your back when you try to conquer the world.

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambition.
-Mark Twain

I hope you found this helpful. Please remember you can get out of such situation gracefully without hurting yourself. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Pratha Nayak

Hello Everyone!

Here is my next book review.

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I read this book and I can say that it’s a total page turner. Meaning you can’t stop yourself to read it till the end. People who have read other books written by Chetan Bhagat will find this particular book very refreshing. First time he has written a murder mystery book and I was euphoric to read it. The story was very well outlined.

This book has everything in it, murder, suspense that’s gonna keep you on edge, heartbreak, terrorism, politics. Well in a way everything is covered.

The story is about a guy Keshav and a girl name Zara. Keshav is a former IIT student who falls in love with a girl named Zara from Kashmir and obviously she is very beautiful, in a way every guy’s dream girl. She is smart, talented and very popular. Where Keshav is a son of senior RSS member and Zara is a Muslim girl from Kashmir you can understand what a controversial and dramatic story it can be. While Keshav is struggling with his career to get a good job in a good MNC IT company and is teaching in coaching center to survive, Zara is pursuing her PhD in IIT Delhi. They fall in love and have an amazing relationship and eventually they breakup because of family unacceptance and mutual disagreement. Suddenly after four years of breakup Keshav gets text messages from Zara on her birthday night to meet her like old times to reconnect, that’s when the story actually starts. Because when he reaches to her room to wish her happy birthday, he finds her dead.

Obviously he is shocked to death and in the same time he himself falls into a terrible position. Because when he sees the love of his life dead in front of his eyes he also becomes a prime suspect to her death. How he gets out of suspects list and gets the urge to find the actual killer is a thrilling journey. The story is narrated by Keshav throughout the book and as he calls it is an “unlove story”. And then Keshav starts digging for clues with the help of his best friend/roommate Sourav to find the real killer. Hopefully you will find this book as riveting as I found it.

Published date: 9 October 2018
Author: Chetan Bhagat
Page count: 304
Publisher: Westland
My rating: 4/5

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Success isn’t over night. It’s when everyday you get a little better than before. It adds up.
– Dwayne Johnson

Hello Everyone!

Today I am writing about habits of highly successful people. From past few months I have been trying to implement few of them into my lifestyle and I really feel amazing change in my health and mindset. Some how I feel it changes the way you think as well. It is told by researchers that to implement any particular habit, it takes 21 days of repetition. If you stick to a habit for 21 days straight, your brain starts to get into the pattern. So I am going to list those habits down for you and I also encourage you to at least try implementing few of them into your lifestyle.

Self-Discipline and Consistency– Well discipline is big on successful people’s plate. This is one of the main reason for who they are today. Do you think an athlete will achieve success if he/she doesn’t have a planned routine for practice? If he/she is not consistent to practice everyday, can they win any game at all? That’s why it is very important to plan your days and stick to it every day if you really want to be successful.

They start their day early- Waking up early is always told as a good habit by our elders. But we hardly ever bother to consider it. But guess what, most of the successful people make sure to wake up early and start their day as soon as possible. I know its hard, at least for me it is really hard. But if we think about it, when we have a motive, we do get up on time. Like when we have to catch an early bus or flight. When we have planned a trip for a vacation, we are actually happy to get up early but why don’t we do that every day. That is because we lack a motive. If you give yourself a motive of why you need to wake up early, it might become easier every morning. Plus you get a lot of time for yourself and to get things done. Just think about the days when you are late and you take a shower in a hurry, you get dressed in a hurry and you even skip you breakfast. And in that process you go through lot of mishaps. you really don’t like those days, do you?

They make reading a priority- Successful people make sure they make some time throughout the day to read a book or articles or anything of their interest. Reading helps you to gain knowledge and also makes you confident and raises your self-esteem. It may be just for 15 mins every day but I suggest you make some time to read.

Take time for yourself- Everyday you should definitely make time for yourself when you can think about yourself. It’s called “self-reflection”. You think about “what you are doing in life?”. “Are you going in the right direction of your goal?”.
Think how you can make your life better. I suggest you do this in a peaceful time but not before going to sleep. It might make you stressful and you will end up losing sleep. It is better to have this alone time after waking up.

Stay Healthy- Successful people make their health a priority. They get up early and they also sleep on time to get the necessary hours of sleep. Well they do have to burn the midnight oil once in while but they make sure to get back into their routine. They exercise, may be not daily but they make time for specific days in a week. Some people say exercising helps them to release stress and keep focus throughout the day.

Set goals and get going- Well once you set a goal, you need to make an action plan. Successful people don’t laze around thinking, “Hey I want to achieve that one day”. Well that day never shows up. What they do is they make a plan of what needs to be done to achieve their goal and they actually start implementing the plan.

Don’t waste time- When you are passionate enough about your goal, you don’t waste time. There will be always something to do. Successful people don’t waste their time watching movies on a couch by eating pop corn. They don’t go to party every weekend at some club. They do it once they achieve their goals to celebrate. And whatever time they get, they spend it with their family or people who are important to them.

Stay focused and be honest- As I talked about being consistent in beginning, well it is really important. You need to stay focused and don’t give up when you fall after crossing a bump. If you are being honest to yourself, then you will never lose your focus. Just ask yourself, What benefit are you going to get if you keep lying to yourself.

Today is your opportunity to build the tomorrow you want.
-Ken Poirot

So guys I hope you will try to implement some of the above mentioned habits. Please like and follow my page to get the future updates from my website and please write your suggestions below in the comment section to help me improve my posts.

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Sayonara!

Pratha Nayak