lifestyle, Self Improvement

How to overcome self doubt?

Erase self doubt by working to build your strength instead of focusing on your weaknesses.
– Rodolfo Costa

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Will I be able to do it?
Am I beautiful?
Am I good enough?
What if I fail in completing this?
What if I make mistakes and end up in trouble?
What if I get stuck in between?
What if they don’t like me at all?
Will I look good in this cloths?
Am I so ugly?


Sounds familiar?
Self-doubt is something we all go through from time to time. Some of us know how to cross that thin barrier and some us just believe those thoughts and give up. And it is quite normal to give up in such situations. But what if you can actually make those same thoughts your strength?
Wouldn’t it be amazing?

I believe that self doubt can be very useful even though it is the only thing that stops us to take that one step which can change our life. Self doubt gives us a reality check about our own self-esteem and confidence. It is a voice in our brain that tells us that we need to learn more, practice more and appreciate the efforts we are putting in to achieving whatever it is that we are looking to have in life.

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The first place self doubt takes birth is our own brain. Whenever we are preparing for something which is extremely important for us, we start doubting our own abilities. Many times it occurs due to our social circle or peer pressure or even our family members. Often we are surrounded with people who take a dig on us and underestimate us in front of everyone. And instead of supporting us, other people make fun of us or they just stay quite. And their laughs and statements starts making a nest in our mind which results in self doubt.

When you really work hard and give your best and end up failing, it is obvious to feel unaccomplished and we start saying ourselves that we are good for nothing or we are just plain dumb. Which is actually not the fact. It is important to understand that mistakes and failures are the only way to learn and expertise your skills in your desired fields.

Self doubt also creeps within you when it comes to your looks or personality. When it comes to these things we usually rely on other’s opinion and believe the same. But it is always said so that as long as you don’t give value to yourself, others won’t give value to you as well. Personality is something which flourishes with self love, self confidence and compassion.

In my opinion we should start owning those thoughts and challenge them within us to overcome self doubt. Make it the ladder to becoming more confident about yourself.

Practice positive affirmation and gratitude.
In many of my posts I have recommend this, and I can say it again and again that practicing positive affirmation helps in a great way. Having a gratitude mindset helps you develop self confidence.

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Self love.
Loving yourself and appreciating yourself will make you feel nourished and blessed. It changes your thoughts and gives you the will to keep trying for yourself.

Celebrate your small achievements and validate it yourself.
Whenever you get a small success, appreciate it and celebrate it. Validate yourself by judging your own efforts. This will give you a push to try in a better way and move towards bigger goals.

Be kind to yourself.
When you see someone trying very hard in something, you always show kindness to them right. You tell them that they doing good, so why not do the same to yourself.

Be mindful of the way you think.
Have you heard of the saying, “The way you think, the same you become.”
So be careful about how you think about yourself. If you will keep having negative thoughts about yourself then that is what you will become eventually.

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Talk to someone you feel very supportive of.
When you are feeling very sad and down, try talking to someone who supports you in every situations. Try sharing your feelings to them. They will definitely help you see the brightness within you.

Stop comparing.
Till the time you will keep comparing your life with others, your life will remain within a limit. Make your life boundless and limitless.

Appreciate your own strengths.
Rather than focusing on your weaknesses try looking into the things in which you are good at. Even if it is about your looks, try focusing what feature is more beautiful about you. What makes you different than other?

Upgrade your skills and learn in the process.
The best way to overcome self doubt is to keep making yourself better. Keep learning and a time will come you will understand how it made you come this far.

Take inspiration from live examples.
If you admire someone, then try to learn from their life about how they made it in their life to where they are today.

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Stop making excuses and take actions.
Instead of talking about plans and thinking how to reach there, take the first step. It might help you go up the ladder sooner.

Try avoiding people who belittle you.
It might be happening that your acquaintances are impacting you in a much deeper level. You might be taking it very sportively but somewhere in the the corner of your brain, your subconscious mind starts believe those people who always belittle you. Try avoiding them as much as possible.

Start journaling.
In one of my post I have mentioned in detail about how journaling changes your life. It increase your inner strengths and helps you learn about yourself.

I seek strength, not to be greater than other, but to fight my greatest enemy, the doubts within myself.
– P.C Cast

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Journaling: How it changed my life?

I write because I don’t know what I think until
I read what I say.
– Flannery O’Connor

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Are you able to recognize all the thoughts and emotions that crosses your mind?
Do you know on an average 6,200 thoughts comes to our mind in a day?
Isn’t it fascinating how less we value our own thoughts and feelings on a daily basis. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could just bottle up at least few of these thoughts?

Doesn’t matter what kind of personality trait you have, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, there are so many thoughts and feelings we never say out loud to any one. But writing those on a piece of paper will help you actually recognize them on a deeper level.

There is no existence till there is no recognition.
When we write our thoughts, we get a lot of different perspective of our own mind. Before we try to understand someone else, I feel it is very important to understand ourselves.

You can know at what point you are being hard on yourself. You can know at what point you are being negative and when you are taking life in a positive manner.
We often judge others after listening to them or speaking to them. Sometimes we point out their flaws and sometimes we appreciate their good deeds.
Just imagine how good it will feel when you can do that to yourself.


I have been journaling for a very long time now. But previously I only used to write when I was very happy or when I was very upset. And when I feel that my thoughts are not organized, I used to avoid writing at all. I was not able to put my thoughts into words. After a certain time I started writing on a daily basis. Even if I don’t have any thing to write, I just used to write positive affirmations. And I felt so much change in my way of processing my own thoughts. I learnt how to keep myself on positive side of life. I learned how to process any negative and aggressive thoughts coming in my brain. It made me realize of all the privilege’s I am blessed with. Whenever I was doubting my own ability in doing something extremely out of my comfort zone, writing about it and reading it again gave me strength to cross those barriers I was so afraid to even think about.

You don’t have to write on a note pad or dairy with a pen daily. You can type your thoughts on your mobile phone or iPad or laptop whenever you get time. But do pen down your feelings. You will feel weightless within yourself.

Benefits of journaling
* Writing everyday boosts your self esteem and improves your mood.
* It helps you in understanding your own stand and position in life.
* It helps you realizing how much you have in life and makes you feel grateful for it.
* It helps you in solving your internal struggles in life and strengthens you emotionally.
* Helps in reducing stress, anxiety and heals any kind of mental traumatic experiences.
* Helps in sleeping better and improves memory as well.
* Helps you staying focused on your life goals.
* Improves communication skills.
* It helps you in learning from your own experiences on a daily basis.

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Journal writing is, foremost, a way to order and reframe perspective.
– Alexandra Johnson

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How Gratitude Changes Your Mind-set?

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.
– Eckhart Tolle

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Do you feel grateful for what you have in life? Do you say Thank You to the Universe for blessing your life with all the necessities? Or do you sulk all the day long about the job you are not getting, or the promotion you are not given, or the house you are not able to buy?
Do you ever feel thankful for just being alive, healthy and safe?

Have your ever thought about the fact that, the life you are living right now with all the privilege you have, out there, somewhere there is a person who is yearning and praying to have it? And yet we are not grateful for things in our life. Do you see the irony in that!

Indulging ourselves in to gratitude changes us in an amazing way. I started this routine almost two years back. Every day in the morning I write the things I feel grateful about. And I write Thank you for everything I have. I do this on the days when I don’t feel very good as well. Even when I am sick or upset, I still note down the points that I feel I am lucky to have in life. And eventually I noticed that it changed my mind set. It helped me deal with any kind of situation or failure in a much easier way. Because I was able to think at the end of the day that, “At least my life still going on and I can still try again.” Gratitude becomes a mind set and eventually your lifestyle changes.

It is said that you attract the things that you focus the most on. So if you focus more on the negative aspect of your life, More bad things will happen, and if you will focus on the positive aspect of your life, you will attract good things. So what do you want to attract into you life?

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Gratitude helps you handle toxic emotions and thoughts-
When something bad happens in our life or we don’t get something, our immediate thought is, “Why is it happening to me?” Have you ever just thought that, it is okay, I can deal with this. Have you tried to boost your own confidence and emotions by saying positive affirmations to yourself? I agree it is not a natural response to such situations. But if you try it, you might see a change in your thought process. You will be willing to try again and feel much better in a very bad situation.

Gratitude makes you more positive in nature-
Well that goes without saying that if you practice gratitude, you will be always focusing on the positive side of every situation. It becomes a powerful part of your nature.

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Changes your perspective towards life-
Even when you have a bad day, at the end if you just think that, “Ok, I made it through the day and I am ready for tomorrow.” Can you see, how this kind of thinking will help you to make your life much easier and much less stressful.

You start to value the time you have in this world-
We never know how long we are going to live in this world and yet we take each and every day very casually. We always think of the things we “wish” to do but never actually do. Because we think we can do it tomorrow. What if that doesn’t happen? Gratitude helps you understand this fact.

You start valuing the people you have in your life-
How often do you say thank you to people who love you, for just being there in your life. We say so many things each and every day to our parents, family, friends, kids, siblings. But have you imagined your life without any of them? Can you feel the pain when you imagine that? Then say thank you to those people who love you and support you unconditionally. Say thank you to them for being there in your life.

Creates an abundance mind-set-
Once you make gratitude a part of your lifestyle, your belief in yourself and world expands in a very broader way. You start seeing good in everything and every situation. Your start seeing and exploring all kind of opportunities and avail them instantly.

Keeps you healthy, mentally as well as physically-
We often read this and get to hear that most of our problems are in our mind. Most of the people fall sick very often because they are heavily distressed. A healthy mind affects in a very good way to your physical health as well. Just think about it, how much changes you can bring into your life by just bringing these small changes in your way of thinking.

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Reduces emotional pain and improves your self-esteem-
As in the previous point I mentioned, gratitude reduces your pain, because you start focusing on good things. You start to feel lighter in mood and feel happy. And when you are happy your self esteem take a hike up the mountain.

How do you feel about yourself today? Do you feel blessed and lucky? Or do you feel unloved and dejected? Try writing down all the things that you have in life today. And do it again tomorrow and again day after tomorrow. Feel the difference in your life by just feeling grateful. As they say it, “The world is your oyster, make it beautiful.”

Gratitude looks to the Past and love to the Present; fear avarice, lust and ambition look ahead.
– C.S Lewis

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“Owning Your Own Personality”

The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are.
– Jim Morrison

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It is normal human nature to feel loved, liked and wanted by the people around us. We want to fit in among the people we think are cool or popular. We want to be even noticed and recognized. In other words, we don’t want to be ghosted out of society.

And to do so we start making changes in ourselves. Like changing our appearance, way of dressing, talking, eating. Some people even start doing things which are completely opposite of their moral values and principles. In a way, we start pretending to be a person which we really aren’t. But is that a good way of living our life?

We say we don’t like those people who are faking it all the time but aren’t we doing the same every single day. We suppress our natural behavior to please other people. It is okay to explore new ways of lifestyle but continuing it even though if we are not comfortable just for the sake of hanging out with people who actually don’t like the real you is really not worth it.

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You will eventually lose your true identity. That is why it is very important to own your own personality. How other people perceive you, is really not your job to worry about. If you are confident about yourself to own your strength and weakness as well, eventually you will be around people who will actually like you for who you really are.

People might point out all your imperfections, which is okay. We should take criticism positively but at times people just point out flaws which is actually an inconvenience for them. In that case, you don’t need to change yourself at all. At times what looks like a flaw to others is the greatest asset of our personality.

People with all kind of traits get a different kind of criticism from our society. An introverted person gets to hear that they don’t talk much to others and they don’t socialize much. Whereas an extroverted person gets to hear that they talk too much and become too much to handle by some people. A person who is very confident within their skin get to hear that they don’t have socializing manners or have no boundaries. So doesn’t matter who you are or how you are, there will be some people who will find you difficult. But all you need to do is ignore those comments and just admit it to yourself, that those people are not meant to be in your life with any deeper emotion.

  • Forgive your past deeds.
    Whatever guilt or regret is holding you back, just let it go. We are human after all, we learn lessons by making mistakes in life. You need to forgive yourself for all your past actions and move on in life with a valuable lesson.
  • Stop comparing yourself with others.
    Just because you find someone cool by their any particular action doesn’t mean it will make you look cool as well. As we are all different kind of people with different kind of traits, there are already a lot of things about you which makes you cool and remarkable. So don’t compare yourself with other people. You are best at other things which many people can’t even think of having or doing.
  • Follow your intuition.
    We often have an inner voice which tells us what is right and what is wrong for us. If we follow that voice then we have already won the battle halfway into the road.
  • Accepts your fears.
    It takes a lot of courage to admit to ourselves that we have insecurities and we are actually scared of a lot of things and circumstances in life. Just cause you have fears doesn’t make you any less. And accepting your fears will help you to get rid of them as well.
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  • Love yourself the way you are.
    You can’t expect people to love you for who you are if you don’t love yourself. You need to value yourself more than anyone else once in a while. It will help you with keeping your self-respect and dignity intact. In other words, it will make you a much stronger person.
  • Try to understand your own thoughts.
    On a daily basis, we have numerous negative thoughts and since we keep reeling those thoughts in our mind from time to time, it becomes our reality. Because our brain starts believing those negative thoughts and directs us to take actions accordingly. Try to keep those thoughts at bay and try having a positive attitude.
  • Be confident about what you want in life.
    Most of the people don’t even know what they want in their life. So they start listening to other people version of what they should want in their life, which again, as a result, makes them unhappy. Ask yourself what you want to be, how you want your life to be? Explore your option and start making the necessary changes for the same.
  • Take responsibility for your own life.
    Rather than relying on someone else and blaming them later for the consequences that you go through, it is better to take full responsibility for your own life. In this way, you will eventually become the best version of yourself.

Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength.
Mastering yourself is true power.
– Lao Tzu

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Self Improvement

How to be alone and not feel lonely

I know its been long that I have written but today I wanna write about something most of the people struggle now a days.LONELINESS

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Most people stay away from their families and friends now a days because of their job or studies or some other reason. And after long tiring days they end up being alone the remaining hours of the day in some room cooped-up in four walls. Eventually they end up sad and depressed.

I agree its difficult to go through such times. We feel like talking to someone or go out with some one and relax. But somehow we don’t get to do it.
There was a time I went through such time and it was really difficult. I became very moody and cranky but with time I learned how to enjoy my solitude.

If you can’t enjoy your own company then how can you expect someone else to enjoy your company.

There are many ways to get out of this painful feeling.

Avoid flaking out on plans.
Has it ever happened that someone might have invited you for some outing or some other plans and you have ended-up giving some non-sense reason to get out of the situation?
Well this is something you shouldn’t do. Because eventually people will stop inviting you to accompany them thinking you are uninterested. Sometimes its better to enjoy the moment and go out and have fun.

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Start writing a journal.
I started journal-ling a long time back and I can say that it really helped me in a very positive way. Writing down the way your day went and the way you feel about it helps having a different perspective towards life. It helps getting rid of the negative emotions as well.

Think about all the perks.
When you are around people, you usually do something everyone commonly enjoy and have a good time. But at times we have our own wishes and choices which others might not like to do. So when you are alone you can do whatever you want. Like watch your favorite movie or favorite series or read a book or play video games. You can even cook your favorite dish and eat it while watching a movie. And you don’t have to think whether others will like it or not.

Use your time productively.
Is there any work pending which you have been postponing since a very long time. Or any course you wanted to, but never got the time to do it. Do it now!! This is the best way to use your time alone properly and it will distract your mind from the lonely feeling too. It will also boost your emotions about yourself in to happy direction.

Try knowing yourself better.
Having lot of time in your hands, you can always try to discover your talents or your likes and dislikes. Does doing some particular activity makes you anxious or nervous but you always wanted to do it. Like playing any particular sport or dancing or singing. Try taking a leap and go for it dear!! Its better to explore it and get to know whether you are good at it or not rather than always having a regret of never trying it throughout your life.

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Try to stay away from social media.
When you feeling sad and lonely, its better to stay away from social media. Now a days in social media people often post their happy moments, where they are enjoying their life. Which is not a bad thing of course but it might make you feel even more lonely and depressed
.

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Identifying your loneliness triggers.
Try to find the timings and situations that makes you feel lonely. Its not necessary to feel lonely when you are alone. At times people feel lonely even when they are surrounded by people and friends. May be because they don’t feel included or they don’t like the company that much. Whatever is the reason try to find it. If coming to an empty home after long tiring day of office makes you feel lonely or eating alone makes you lonely, try identifying that reason and try to find a solution it. Like try finding a colleague with whom you can have dinner once in a while after office hour. Or if a friend is staying near by, check if they want to do something for an hour or two.

Try to live in the moment.
Its better to start enjoying the moment rather than thinking what you will do once you reach home. If you keep dreading the upcoming lonely time rather than enjoying the present time, then whats the point right?

Learn to differentiate between loneliness and isolation.
Feeling lonely at times being alone and your acquaintance being busy with their life is something different. Whereas if you are trying to isolate yourself from others, then may be its time to ask yourself, “Why are you doing this to yourself?”. There may be many reasons to it. May be you don’t like being in your current social circle or may be you are going through a rough time in your life. If you don’t like your current social circle, then try to make new friends. And if you are having a rough time because of work life or personal life then please talk to someone who you feel you can confide in, like a family member or a very old close friend.

Try exploring your interests.
It is always good to explore what keeps you interested. Try finding a new hobby. Anything that fascinates you and makes you curious to learn more about it.
May be take a painting class or dancing or sculpture making class. Keep trying till you find something which you can do regularly to pass your time. On plus side, you get to learn something new again.

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Adopt a pet.
People who are animal friendly often adopt a pet. A pet always give you company and also gives you emotional support. You can play with them when you are around. It is also said that people who have pets tend to stay happy most of the time.

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Start a exercise routine.
Having a regular workout routine not only keeps you healthy and fit, but it also keeps your mood elevated. You might not feel like doing it initially when you are already sad and feeling lonely but after a few days you will definitely notice a change in your mood. You will feel more active and alive.

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Try going on a trip.
Have you been planing on going on a solo trip since a long time but never got the time or guts!!!
Take that trip now. Find an affordable place you want to go, pack your bags and just go.
Even if you don’t like going alone, now a days lots of trip organizers are available online. They arrange trips for group of people who want to go on trips but with security and affordable plans. Its a great way to make new friends as you will be meeting lots of new people there.

Last but not the least, try enjoying your own company. It will really help you grow within yourself. I hope all the above points might be of some help to people out there who are feeling lonely right now.

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