The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are.
– Jim Morrison
It is normal human nature to feel loved, liked and wanted by the people around us. We want to fit in among the people we think are cool or popular. We want to be even noticed and recognized. In other words, we don’t want to be ghosted out of society.
And to do so we start making changes in ourselves. Like changing our appearance, way of dressing, talking, eating. Some people even start doing things which are completely opposite of their moral values and principles. In a way, we start pretending to be a person which we really aren’t. But is that a good way of living our life?
We say we don’t like those people who are faking it all the time but aren’t we doing the same every single day. We suppress our natural behavior to please other people. It is okay to explore new ways of lifestyle but continuing it even though if we are not comfortable just for the sake of hanging out with people who actually don’t like the real you is really not worth it.
You will eventually lose your true identity. That is why it is very important to own your own personality. How other people perceive you, is really not your job to worry about. If you are confident about yourself to own your strength and weakness as well, eventually you will be around people who will actually like you for who you really are.
People might point out all your imperfections, which is okay. We should take criticism positively but at times people just point out flaws which is actually an inconvenience for them. In that case, you don’t need to change yourself at all. At times what looks like a flaw to others is the greatest asset of our personality.
People with all kind of traits get a different kind of criticism from our society. An introverted person gets to hear that they don’t talk much to others and they don’t socialize much. Whereas an extroverted person gets to hear that they talk too much and become too much to handle by some people. A person who is very confident within their skin get to hear that they don’t have socializing manners or have no boundaries. So doesn’t matter who you are or how you are, there will be some people who will find you difficult. But all you need to do is ignore those comments and just admit it to yourself, that those people are not meant to be in your life with any deeper emotion.
- Forgive your past deeds.
Whatever guilt or regret is holding you back, just let it go. We are human after all, we learn lessons by making mistakes in life. You need to forgive yourself for all your past actions and move on in life with a valuable lesson.
- Stop comparing yourself with others.
Just because you find someone cool by their any particular action doesn’t mean it will make you look cool as well. As we are all different kind of people with different kind of traits, there are already a lot of things about you which makes you cool and remarkable. So don’t compare yourself with other people. You are best at other things which many people can’t even think of having or doing.
- Follow your intuition.
We often have an inner voice which tells us what is right and what is wrong for us. If we follow that voice then we have already won the battle halfway into the road.
- Accepts your fears.
It takes a lot of courage to admit to ourselves that we have insecurities and we are actually scared of a lot of things and circumstances in life. Just cause you have fears doesn’t make you any less. And accepting your fears will help you to get rid of them as well.
- Love yourself the way you are.
You can’t expect people to love you for who you are if you don’t love yourself. You need to value yourself more than anyone else once in a while. It will help you with keeping your self-respect and dignity intact. In other words, it will make you a much stronger person.
- Try to understand your own thoughts.
On a daily basis, we have numerous negative thoughts and since we keep reeling those thoughts in our mind from time to time, it becomes our reality. Because our brain starts believing those negative thoughts and directs us to take actions accordingly. Try to keep those thoughts at bay and try having a positive attitude.
- Be confident about what you want in life.
Most of the people don’t even know what they want in their life. So they start listening to other people version of what they should want in their life, which again, as a result, makes them unhappy. Ask yourself what you want to be, how you want your life to be? Explore your option and start making the necessary changes for the same.
- Take responsibility for your own life.
Rather than relying on someone else and blaming them later for the consequences that you go through, it is better to take full responsibility for your own life. In this way, you will eventually become the best version of yourself.
Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength.
Mastering yourself is true power.
– Lao Tzu
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